"Have they any children?"
"Yes," said he, "two; they are staying with one of my daughters
at present, where, indeed, Clara has mostly been. I wouldn't lose
sight of her, as I felt sure they would come together again: and
Dick, who is the best of good fellows, really took the matter to
heart. You see, he had no other love to run to, as she had. So I
managed it all; as I have done with such-like matters before."
"Ah," said I, "no doubt you wanted to keep them out of the
Divorce Court: but I suppose it often has to settle such
matters."
"Then you suppose nonsense," said he. "I know that there used to
be such lunatic affairs as divorce-courts: but just consider; all
the cases that came into them were matters of property quarrels:
and I think, dear guest," said he, smiling, "that though you do
come from another planet, you can see from the mere outside look of
our world that quarrels about private property could not go on
amongst us in our days."
Indeed, my drive from Hammersmith to Bloomsbury, and all the
quiet happy life I had seen so many hints of; even apart from my
shopping, would have been enough to tell me that "the sacred rights
of property," as we used to think of them, were now no more. So I
sat silent while the old man took up the thread of the discourse
again, and said:
"Well, then, property quarrels being no longer possible, what
remains in these matters that a court of law could deal with? Fancy
a court for enforcing a contract of passion or sentiment! If such a
thing were needed as a reductio ad absurdum of the enforcement of
contract, such a folly would do that for us."
He was silent again a little, and then said: "You must
understand once for all that we have changed these matters; or
rather, that our way of looking at them has changed, as we have
changed within the last two hundred years. We do not deceive
ourselves, indeed, or believe that we can get rid of all the
trouble that besets the dealings between the sexes. We know that we
must face the unhappiness that comes of man and woman confusing the
relations between natural passion, and sentiment, and the
friendship which, when things go well, softens the awakening from
passing illusions: but we are not so mad as to pile up degradation
on that unhappiness by engaging in sordid squabbles about
livelihood and position, and the power of tyrannising over the
children who have been the results of love or lust."
Again he paused awhile, and again went on: "Calf love, mistaken
for a heroism that shall be lifelong, yet early waning into
disappointment; the inexplicable desire that comes on a man of
riper years to be the all-in-all to some one woman, whose ordinary
human kindness and human beauty he has idealised into superhuman
perfection, and made the one object of his desire; or lastly the
reasonable longing of a strong and thoughtful man to become the
most intimate friend of some beautiful and wise woman, the very
type of the beauty and glory of the world which we love so well,—as
we exult in all the pleasure and exaltation of spirit which goes
with these things, so we set ourselves to bear the sorrow which not
unseldom goes with them also; remembering those lines of the
ancient poet (I quote roughly from memory one of the many
translations of the nineteenth century):
'For this the Gods have fashioned man's grief and evil day That
still for man hereafter might be the tale and the lay.'
Well, well, 'tis little likely anyhow that all tales shall be
lacking, or all sorrow cured."
He was silent for some time, and I would not interrupt him. At
last he began again: "But you must know that we of these
generations are strong and healthy of body, and live easily; we
pass our lives in reasonable strife with nature, exercising not one
side of ourselves only, but all sides, taking the keenest pleasure
in all the life of the world. So it is a point of honour with us
not to be self- centred; not to suppose that the world must cease
because one man is sorry; therefore we should think it foolish, or
if you will, criminal, to exaggerate these matters of sentiment and
sensibility: we are no more inclined to eke out our sentimental
sorrows than to cherish our bodily pains; and we recognise that
there are other pleasures besides love-making. You must remember,
also, that we are long-lived, and that therefore beauty both in man
and woman is not so fleeting as it was in the days when we were
burdened so heavily by self-inflicted diseases. So we shake off
these griefs in a way which perhaps the sentimentalists of other
times would think contemptible and unheroic, but which we think
necessary and manlike. As on the other hand, therefore, we have
ceased to be commercial in our love- matters, so also we have
ceased to be ARTIFICIALLY foolish. The folly which comes by nature,
the unwisdom of the immature man, or the older man caught in a
trap, we must put up with that, nor are we much ashamed of it; but
to be conventionally sensitive or sentimental—my friend, I am old
and perhaps disappointed, but at least I think we have cast off
SOME of the follies of the older world."
He paused, as if for some words of mine; but I held my peace:
then he went on: "At least, if we suffer from the tyranny and
fickleness of nature or our own want of experience, we neither
grimace about it, nor lie. If there must be sundering betwixt those
who meant never to sunder, so it must be: but there need be no
pretext of unity when the reality of it is gone: nor do we drive
those who well know that they are incapable of it to profess an
undying sentiment which they cannot really feel: thus it is that as
that monstrosity of venal lust is no longer possible, so also it is
no longer needed. Don't misunderstand me. You did not seemed
shocked when I told you that there were no law-courts to enforce
contracts of sentiment or passion; but so curiously are men made,
that perhaps you will be shocked when I tell you that there is no
code of public opinion which takes the place of such courts, and
which might be as tyrannical and unreasonable as they were. I do
not say that people don't judge their neighbours' conduct,
sometimes, doubtless, unfairly. But I do say that there is no
unvarying conventional set of rules by which people are judged; no
bed of Procrustes to stretch or cramp their minds and lives; no
hypocritical excommunication which people are FORCED to pronounce,
either by unconsidered habit, or by the unexpressed threat of the
lesser interdict if they are lax in their hypocrisy. Are you
shocked now?"
"N-o—no," said I, with some hesitation. "It is all so
different."
"At any rate," said he, "one thing I think I can answer for:
whatever sentiment there is, it is real—and general; it is not
confined to people very specially refined. I am also pretty sure,
as I hinted to you just now, that there is not by a great way as
much suffering involved in these matters either to men or to women
as there used to be. But excuse me for being so prolix on this
question! You know you asked to be treated like a being from
another planet."
"Indeed I thank you very much," said I. "Now may I ask you about
the position of women in your society?"
He laughed very heartily for a man of his years, and said: "It
is not without reason that I have got a reputation as a careful
student of history. I believe I really do understand 'the
Emancipation of Women movement' of the nineteenth century. I doubt
if any other man now alive does."
"Well?" said I, a little bit nettled by his merriment.
"'Well," said he, "of course you will see that all that is a
dead controversy now. The men have no longer any opportunity of
tyrannising over the women, or the women over the men; both of
which things took place in those old times. The women do what they
can do best, and what they like best, and the men are neither
jealous of it or injured by it. This is such a commonplace that I
am almost ashamed to state it."
I said, "O; and legislation? do they take any part in that?"
Hammond smiled and said: "I think you may wait for an answer to
that question till we get on to the subject of legislation. There
may be novelties to you in that subject also."
"Very well," I said; "but about this woman question? I saw at
the Guest House that the women were waiting on the men: that seems
a little like reaction doesn't it?"
"Does it?" said the old man; "perhaps you think housekeeping an
unimportant occupation, not deserving of respect.
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