I believe that
was the opinion of the 'advanced' women of the nineteenth century,
and their male backers. If it is yours, I recommend to your notice
an old Norwegian folk-lore tale called How the Man minded the
House, or some such title; the result of which minding was that,
after various tribulations, the man and the family cow balanced
each other at the end of a rope, the man hanging halfway up the
chimney, the cow dangling from the roof, which, after the fashion
of the country, was of turf and sloping down low to the ground.
Hard on the cow, I think. Of course no such mishap could
happen to such a superior person as yourself," he added,
chuckling.
I sat somewhat uneasy under this dry gibe. Indeed, his manner of
treating this latter part of the question seemed to me a little
disrespectful.
"Come, now, my friend," quoth he, "don't you know that it is a
great pleasure to a clever woman to manage a house skilfully, and
to do it so that all the house-mates about her look pleased, and
are grateful to her? And then, you know, everybody likes to be
ordered about by a pretty woman: why, it is one of the pleasantest
forms of flirtation. You are not so old that you cannot remember
that. Why, I remember it well."
And the old fellow chuckled again, and at last fairly burst out
laughing.
"Excuse me," said he, after a while; "I am not laughing at
anything you could be thinking of; but at that silly
nineteenth-century fashion, current amongst rich so-called
cultivated people, of ignoring all the steps by which their daily
dinner was reached, as matters too low for their lofty
intelligence. Useless idiots! Come, now, I am a 'literary man,' as
we queer animals used to be called, yet I am a pretty good cook
myself."
"So am I," said I.
"Well, then," said he, "I really think you can understand me
better than you would seem to do, judging by your words and your
silence."
Said I: "Perhaps that is so; but people putting in practice
commonly this sense of interest in the ordinary occupations of life
rather startles me. I will ask you a question or two presently
about that. But I want to return to the position of women amongst
you. You have studied the 'emancipation of women' business of the
nineteenth century: don't you remember that some of the 'superior'
women wanted to emancipate the more intelligent part of their sex
from the bearing of children?"
The old man grew quite serious again. Said he: "I DO remember
about that strange piece of baseless folly, the result, like all
other follies of the period, of the hideous class tyranny which
then obtained. What do we think of it now? you would say. My
friend, that is a question easy to answer. How could it possibly be
but that maternity should be highly honoured amongst us? Surely it
is a matter of course that the natural and necessary pains which
the mother must go through form a bond of union between man and
woman, an extra stimulus to love and affection between them, and
that this is universally recognised. For the rest, remember that
all the ARTIFICIAL burdens of motherhood are now done away with. A
mother has no longer any mere sordid anxieties for the future of
her children. They may indeed turn out better or worse; they may
disappoint her highest hopes; such anxieties as these are a part of
the mingled pleasure and pain which goes to make up the life of
mankind. But at least she is spared the fear (it was most commonly
the certainty) that artificial disabilities would make her children
something less than men and women: she knows that they will live
and act according to the measure of their own faculties. In times
past, it is clear that the 'Society' of the day helped its Judaic
god, and the 'Man of Science' of the time, in visiting the sins of
the fathers upon the children. How to reverse this process, how to
take the sting out of heredity, has for long been one of the most
constant cares of the thoughtful men amongst us. So that, you see,
the ordinarily healthy woman (and almost all our women are both
healthy and at least comely), respected as a child-bearer and
rearer of children, desired as a woman, loved as a companion,
unanxious for the future of her children, has far more instinct for
maternity than the poor drudge and mother of drudges of past days
could ever have had; or than her sister of the upper classes,
brought up in affected ignorance of natural facts, reared in an
atmosphere of mingled prudery and prurience."
"You speak warmly," I said, "but I can see that you are
right."
"Yes," he said, "and I will point out to you a token of all the
benefits which we have gained by our freedom. What did you think of
the looks of the people whom you have come across to-day?"
Said I: "I could hardly have believed that there could be so
many good-looking people in any civilised country."
He crowed a little, like the old bird he was. "What! are we
still civilised?" said he. "Well, as to our looks, the English and
Jutish blood, which on the whole is predominant here, used not to
produce much beauty. But I think we have improved it. I know a man
who has a large collection of portraits printed from photographs of
the nineteenth century, and going over those and comparing them
with the everyday faces in these times, puts the improvement in our
good looks beyond a doubt. Now, there are some people who think it
not too fantastic to connect this increase of beauty directly with
our freedom and good sense in the matters we have been speaking of:
they believe that a child born from the natural and healthy love
between a man and a woman, even if that be transient, is likely to
turn out better in all ways, and especially in bodily beauty, than
the birth of the respectable commercial marriage bed, or of the
dull despair of the drudge of that system. They say, Pleasure
begets pleasure. What do you think?"
"I am much of that mind," said I.
Chapter 10
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
"Well," said the old man, shifting in his chair, "you must get
on with your questions, Guest; I have been some time answering this
first one."
Said I: "I want an extra word or two about your ideas of
education; although I gathered from Dick that you let your children
run wild and didn't teach them anything; and in short, that you
have so refined your education, that now you have none."
"Then you gathered left-handed," quoth he. "But of course I
understand your point of view about education, which is that of
times past, when 'the struggle for life,' as men used to phrase it
(i.e., the struggle for a slave's rations on one side, and for a
bouncing share of the slave-holders' privilege on the other),
pinched 'education' for most people into a niggardly dole of not
very accurate information; something to be swallowed by the
beginner in the art of living whether he liked it or not, and was
hungry for it or not: and which had been chewed and digested over
and over again by people who didn't care about it in order to serve
it out to other people who didn't care about it."
I stopped the old man's rising wrath by a laugh, and said:
"Well, YOU were not taught that way, at any rate, so you may let
your anger run off you a little."
"True, true," said he, smiling.
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